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Eventually I found my boyfriend and we are living together now, but this was after years of editing and editing my profile. I understand you wanting to date a Japanese guy, because many foreigners are planning to go back to their countries, or because the bigger dating pool is well, Japanese guy. Not to mention guys that seemed interested in me, meet me 3 or 4 times, only to tell me that they thought we were only friends, despite what was written on my profile. I was just ghosted by this guy who seems to have a girlfriend :( I want to date a local, you know? I speak the language, I live here, I like a lot of things about Japan, so I guess I wanted to experience having a special other from here. Now, I'll be the first to admit I'm being really stupid, but. It feels nice to be seen as a potential partner, and just dating "normally", you know? Going for lunch, coffee, for a walk, etc. I've realized this is not the case at all when I meet other foreigners. You start to believe there's something wrong with you, that you're undateable :( I know the process already - I start "dating" someone, this person eventually realizes I actually mean what's on my profile (looking for friends and dates - not "fun"!), then they immediately lose interest. I use Tinder and multiple gay apps, but while I get a lot of "attention" for being an exotic foreigner I guess, it's pretty much always from guys who are looking for casual encounters. I've been in Tokyo for 3 years and I honestly struggle to find guys who want to date. Dating is tough for everyone, but it gets extra hard when your dating pool is minuscule, and in a culture where gay guys just have girlfriends/wives and just have sex with men in secret.